Mind and body operate together in amazing ways, so it’s difficult to distinguish the two. How you think will impact how you feel and how you approach health will impact what you think.

One of the most effective tools I’ve had for getting over a breakup is the gym. Exercise is a natural antidepressant that will get you feeling right, put you back on a solid routine, and make you more confident overall. Whether you prefer weights, Crossfit, yoga, or endurance sports, it doesn’t matter. Pick something that challenges you and gets you sweating and incorporate it into your life.

Diet is equally, if not more important, than exercise. No matter how many reps you belt out at the squat rack, diet will ultimately control how you look and feel. Keep it clean with natural, whole foods that don’t have a ton of ingredients that you can’t even pronounce. You will start to think much clearer, free up excess pounds, and feel better about yourself in general.

So, start small, but start today. Set some physical goals for yourself whether it’s to look better in a tank top, go nine rounds at the boxing gym, or run a 7-minute mile. Giving yourself a healthy challenge is a great way to get over your ex.

3. Your Soul

For the purposes of this discussion, I’ll define the soul as the “inner essence that defines you” – what makes you who you are. Now is the perfect time to get back in touch with yourself.

One great exercise is to determine a personal mission statement. Reexamine your PFE (Purpose For Existence). Once you can hone in on this, it can give your life more meaning and make decisions much easier to make. For Walt Disney, it was “to make people happy”; Richard Branson’s is, “To have fun in my journey through life and learn from my mistakes.” Put some thought into what yours can be and then live and breathe it every day.

If you haven’t made one before, build a bucket list. Think of all the amazing things you want to accomplish in life and write them down. Then take the first step to knocking one off the list. Seriously, now. Even if it’s small. If you want to visit every one of the 7 Wonders of the World, start researching flights. Just get some motion going on this and you’ll start progressing in the right direction.

Find other ways to enrich your soul by giving back to the community, surrounding yourself with amazing people, travelling to far off destinations to give your life perspective. Understand who you want to be and what you want to accomplish and take steps in a positive direction every day.

So, there you have it. A simple but effective playbook to tackle your breakup. Go through the feelings, let the emotions run through you. It will be a journey, but you must go through every phase to fully process the loss of your ex.

Then get right with yourself. You have a clean slate to rediscover and redefine your own unique awesomeness. Focus on things that enrich your mind , body and soul. As you do this, you will generate a natural, positive energy and aura that will be irresistible to women and finding your true soulmate will happen much more organically. Good luck out there…you got this!

Getting Back Out There

If the breakup just happened recently, that might not be such a great idea. However, if it’s been a little while since the breakup, and you’re looking to find someone to be in a relationship – or if you’re just looking to date casually and see what’s out there – online dating is the best way to do that. With that in mind, here are three great online dating options that’ll help you find the right person (or people) for you without having to filter through tons of fake profiles and uninteresting, non-compatible people.