The two of you should treat each other equally. That does not mean that you should have the same responsibilities. Your role is not better than your partner’s role, and you should respect your partner. It is reasonable to have these feelings, but you should respect her role in the house as well. If you want a change, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Martin!

To Jenny.. Couldn’t agree with you more! 23 years of pain MAKES you not give a DAMN! I really don’t care at all. He just chipped a piece of my heart off everyday until now there’s no heart left. He can thank himself.

Once again we tentatively reconciled, re-committing ourselves to each other

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Cheryle!

I read through a few of these comments and I was hoping that you could help me and tell me if I’m seeing this right or not. I found out confronted her and she apologized and said she wasn’t feeling her self. She got a job and she actually started feeling better about us according to her, but I couldn’t shake my distrust of her infidelity, I felt more had gone on than she told me. Then I started to retire from my job so and she went to another state to secure housing for us and russiancupid username the kids. When I am finally able to join her I discover that she has been talking to an old acquaintance.

If she is doing her responsibilities for the house that the two of you have determined throughout your relationship, then she is meeting her requirements

While we were separated I had convinced myself that I had been over-reacting and was being foolish. So when I made this discovery I took her word that they were just friends from high school and they were currently collaborating on a book. Writing is one of her passions so I encouraged her and said i was fine with the whole thing. Suffice it to say that they had been carrying on a long distance e-ffair, involving texts, videos and electronic distance operated toys. After discovering this during an argument she came clean about the previous affair and confirmed my suspicions. I don’t believe in counseling so whenever she brought it up, I would decline.

I tried to fix my mode of thinking and change my reactions to things that I think that I think any normal person wouldn’t care about. After two wars and multiple fire fights and explosions I had never presented the symptoms of PTSS. The incidents with her had given me PTSS. I found myself being highly sensitive to things that would otherwise be normal behavior, but when she would do it it would upset me. And once again I could feel myself distancing from her. I couldn’t bring myself to trust her and I begin to be caught in a loop of feeling that was becoming detrimental to my reactions with people besides her, most notably my children. I was beginning to lose the ability to be happy or invest feelings in anyone for fear that I would be hurt in some way.

Recently we got into an argument and I decided to leave. The walls I had been building up helped me with my decision and I was confident that I was doing the right thing. I had agreed to move out in a month and we were working towards that. The other night she said that she wanted to talk so we did during the course of the talk we got to arguing again and I was brought back into the cycle of thinking that i had just escaped from. I had convinced myself that no matter what she did it wasn’t my business, and it was working! But after the talk everything that I had been freeing myself from came back and now even though I’m still committed to leaving, I find myself constantly thinking about what she is doing while she is out of the house.