Though Fab Swingers claims to safeguard against this, Google image-searching someone’s photos before chatting is smart, as pictures are frequently taken from porn sites and social media.

Another downside is the prevalence of unprotected sex, as evidenced not only by photos, but profiles where interests like “bareback” and “cream pies” are explicitly stated.

Breeding is a common kink among dominant men on Fab Swingers, says the 23-year-old woman I speak to” “I get a lot of guys FetLife enquiring about it, and even offering to pay me to cum in my pussy. In fact, I’ve been getting close to a new dom who’s very into the idea of breeding me. To him, the best way to make me his is to plant his seed in me. It’s about ownership and intimacy for some.”

“Fab offers people the opportunity to indulge in certain desires-however, it also highlights questionable personal values and cultural views,” he says. “I’m bisexual. Some members from older generations or religious backgrounds refuse to associate or message someone labeled as such. “

Apparently, hosting an orgy is fine, but the fact that you e sex is immoral

Trans people get it even worse, he says: “The aggressive views people have toward [them] are far more openly hostile. Even having your profile verified by or linked to a trans person is a black spot to some.”

It’s 7 AM now and the sun is rising on another cold Sunday in London. A guy with “creampie” in his username has evidently had a great evening, writing, “Wow what a night, another non-stop cum filling gangbang party with 2 girls going home dripping with warm cum.”

When users meet, some prefer to have a drink first, while others like getting straight into it, with reviews dripping with tales of women opening doors in lingerie. Generally, women and couples seem more open to accommodating, while men seem more open to paying for hotel rooms or having sex in cars. The reason for this, a cynic might argue, is that these men are cheating on their wives and girlfriends.

Horniness partly explains Fab Swingers’ popularity. For women especially, the site is a stigma-free zone where heightened sexuality can be explored anonymously. Researching this story, however, and trawling through the site for many weeks, the number of time users are spending on there became apparent. In London alone, hundreds of the same men and women are logged in all the time, while thousands of the same people log in multiple times an hour-not to mention many others doing this around the rest of the UK.

On the female profile I created to access men, dozens of the same guys messaged me morning, noon, and night, despite me never replying, posting a photo, or writing a single word on the profile. About a third of active users appear to have never met anyone, even though some of their accounts are over a year old.

This leads me to wonder if horniness is that big of a factor in Fab Swingers’ popularity- or if, in fact, it’s more about escapism. Though sexual fantasies lure people here, what keeps them coming back may be the site’s constant activity, where things like messaging, searching, and taking photos can turn one hour into five, and-like gaming, drugs, and social media-offer mental relief from the rigors of everyday life.

The sharp tip of this iceberg is “breeding,” a growing fetish where people literally aim to conceive a child during no-strings-attached hookups

Of course, nothing provides escape quite like casual sex, but on Fab Swingers, the quest for something that is, by definition, meaningless seems much more important than actually attaining it.